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Quarantine

Today, is Day 12 of Self-Quarantine.

As of  3/15/2020, I've been ordered to work from home as I am a School Based Clinician and the schools are closed.  We are expected to support families in any way that we can by providing them therapy virtually.  I am an essential worker.  And I am sooo very fortunate to still be employed. Thank you universe, thank you agency. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!

With that said, that will probably be the only positive thing I have to say in today's post.

I woke up and made a decision that since writing is my outlet... my very best form of venting my thoughts and feelings, that today's post will spew forth all of my anger and frustration around this pandemic and that anything moving forward will be positive (unless there's a new development I need to vent about... like another family member falling ill or possibly worse).

My routine every day for about a year is to find some time in the day to glance at the news.  Not always immediately in…

COVID, Toilet Paper and Other Things......

Welcome back readers... or welcome back to me, in any case.

I have written jack shit in months.
Well, there hasn't been much to inspire me to write a blog post.. but lo and behold, some new developments have taken place and I will have a new Froggy Friday UPDATE this very Friday.

Be sure to read Bozo the Moocher, written a couple of years back, about Lynn and her frog.

In other news, unless you've literally been living underneath a rock, in a cave, isolated in outer space... or something in the same realm... then you must be aware that we are currently experiencing a worldwide PANDEMIC!

Who would've thought!!!!
Much like in the movies... a virus has spread, and while it's not deadly to all, it's most certainly deadly to some, causing humans to grab everything they can from their local supermarkets... 
For whatever reason, the most popular product of choice has been toilet paper. 
I still don't understand why, but across the nation, the United States, has been f…

Gaslighters And the Scars They Leave Behind

I've steered clear of writing anything for awhile because most of what I have to write is either, way too negative and blaming or just a repeat of past posts.

The theme of the last couple of months, however, has been gaslighting.

For those of you who don't know what the means:

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that can make a person question their own sanity.

Sound familiar?

Our current President is a prime example of someone who gaslights.
He's said things in the past, and if we hadn't an actual written record of the nonsense that's spewed out of mouth and fingertips, many of us would be questioning if he'd really said the things he's said.

In fact, there are a slew of President Cheese Doodle's followers out there that have actually seen the proof and still deny he's made the comments or said the things he's said.  There are women that don't believe his comment about grabbing women by the p*ssy is offensive.

Those followers may not be q…

Froggy Fridays: Froggy Friends and Family

I have been absent because I've had so much going on in my life - 90% AMAZING with a splash of 10% challenging - that while I've had TONS to write about, I couldn't just focus on one thing. That doesn't mean that I don't get annoyed once in a blue and the following is a rant about that...

Over the past week, I've had one common theme in my head and I feel like addressing it today.

When my mom died... dropped dead unexpectedly... croaked in her very own backyard that she was sooo desperately trying to sell that it ultimately did her in... so very tragically... my older sister and I not only took on a bulk of responsibilities we didn't expect, but we also encountered some truly eye opening moments.

Since that terrible and consistently hurtful event took place, she has pretty much stopped dealing with everyone around her - both familial and community.  Meaning, right now.. me, my brother and my grandmother are the only relatives she talks to and out of all of …

Friends?

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Over my time transitioning from child to teen to young adult to mature adult, I've had a lot of experience in maintaining relationships and what it means to be a friend.



I can count the number of true friends on one hand and I can tell you that friendships totally outweigh romantic relationships by a landslide.  Friendships are what you rely on when those romantic relationships are no longer present AND when they're actually THRIVING. Because who can you lean on or take self care trips with, if not with your friends. Who can you celebrate your new relationship with if not your friends?



I've never been bothered by the small circle of friends I have or how easily interchangeable some of them have been.  I have one true friendship I've maintained for 23 years now and honestly, if that's the last friend I have, I'm good. She is one I've had through my highest of highs and lowest of lows.  She is supportive no matter how far fetched my ideas or situations have b…

Obligation

At the end of every calendar year, I tend to look back and reflect on the lessons I've learned and my plans for the future.  This morning, I realized that there wasn't much of anything new I've learned except the concept of "obligation."

It's the latest theme I've run across in the past couple of months.   An "obligation" as defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary as an act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound.  It is also known as a duty or commitment. 
In thinking about the lessons I've learned, I always look back and think about my mother's life and how themes affected her and in turn have affected me throughout the years.  Obligation was a huge theme in every step of the way.  My mother was abused in all ways as a child and teenager and even as an adult.  She was taken advantage of and used.  And everything that happened to her, only made her stronger.  Yet, she never held a grudge against ANYONE, inclu…

We Owe Them Nothing

Last night, I had a short and interesting conversation with a relative about a situation they're going through with an ex.

Rather than put her business out there, instead, I'm going to hone in on the advice I gave her and that I shared with someone else I deeply care about recently as well.

In this game of love and war, people come out bruised, hurt, emotionally and sometimes even physically scarred from the trauma of simply trying to meet on the same page with these people we fall into relationships with.  We share vital parts of our lives with them, including inter-familial struggles, financial hardships, and all of the ups and downs we encounter throughout.  When it ends, we have to figure out a way to navigate without these people who were once such an important part of our life.  It's simply what happens.

After we've dealt with our hurt and pain, the barriers present themselves when we still have some sort of emotional or physical tie to them...such as a child or …