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“I cannot conceive of a greater loss than the loss of one's self-respect.” ~ Gandhi

Respect -1-a : to consider worthy of high regard : esteem
                   b: to refrain from interfering with <please respect their privacy>                 2-   : to have reference to :concern Today, one of my favorite friends referenced the word "respect" when I vented to her in a billion texts regarding a "small" incident that occurred.....  Her response was and I quote, "....they need to fucking know..."  Yeah... it was simple but deep lol. Respect, to me, is such an important part of any relationship with anyone...friend, lover...even foe.  If it weren't a deal breaker than the great diva, Aretha Franklin, wouldn't have sang a hit song about it.  It's right up there in the top 5 requirements in a "potential" partner for me along with, "excellent personal hygiene," "honesty," "loyalty," and &qu…

Insecure Women and the Men That Date Them

How weak does your partner have to be before you decide you need to step into an already tense situation and fight a war for them?
If a man has already squashed a problem, then there should never be any reason for his partner to get involved.  It's handled.  There's no need to further inflate the problem, right?  Or do you find him incapable?

Or is it merely your own insecurity that induces this need?

How secure does your relationship need to be in order for you to allow yourself to relax while your partner handles their own problems?

What causes a someone to investigate their partner's social network page to see if there's anything suspicious about their behavior?

If he's done his dirt in the past, well, guess what, honey! It's likely he'll do it again and that's just something you have to either tolerate or move away from.  Those are really the only logical choices you have.

If they've never done anything to betray your trust in the past, what ex…

Seek and Ye Shall Find

A hard lesson I've learned over the past couple of years is that if you look for something, you will find it.

Call it instinct... call it intuition.... But in the end, call it what it is... SNOOPING!

A bad habit many of us have is stalking our significant others via social networks... looking through their electronics...breaking into emails,  etc.
Whether we choose to admit it or not, each of us is guilty of at least one of these things at least one time in our lives. 
I'm sure we all have stories of how badly THAT ended...

It's true, you may have "found" something you sort of knew was there.
However, if your instinct told you that it was there, then maybe you should be re-evaluating your relationship or lack of a relationship with that person.  That should be enough to set off the red flags.

And what exactly are you looking for?
Evidence of what? Don't you know that this is just a form of "Self Sabotage"?

Let me tell you what happens when you snoop.