Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder? NOT!!!

I was reading a book the other day that stated that if you're out of the picture long enough for someone, somehow that person would miss you more.

You know that saying, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder...."?

It sort of goes along with that whole "hard to get" scenario as well.

I started to think about whether I'm just an all around weirdo, abnormal or just plain fucked up.

Why? Because....

Absence has NEVER made my heart grow fonder.
On the contrary... the longer you are out of the picture the less I want to see you or deal with you.  Whatever feelings I may have developed for you will start to dwindle or completely go away, especially if we didn't leave off on the best terms.

For me it's all about, "Out of sight, out of mind!!"

I have come to the conclusion that many people treat others and follow societal, social and relationship rules according to the books they read, the documentaries they follow and assume that because those techniques work for the large majority, they must work for everyone....

You are mistaken.

If you know me even a little bit, then you know there's nothing normal or standard about me.
Sure, inside I have many of the same wants and needs as others... but when it comes to the art of manipulation, I'm not as easily fooled.

I think that's what frustrates people the most about me.
I cannot be treated the same way you treat the average person.
My intelligence is somewhat higher than average, even if I have ditzy moments... and I just don't fall for bullshit as quickly as others do.

If you think that by being cute with pouring on the compliments and terms of endearment as well as making yourself unavailable will make me want you more... then you're in for a huge surprise.  Because if you think you don't care, I care even less.

It's very easy for me to fall out of "like" with someone the longer they stay away.
You'd have to really "wow" me in some way to get the results you're looking for.

And if what you're looking for is the typical "fall head over heels" response then you're looking in the wrong place!

Besides... aren't relationships of all sorts built on memories together, physical interactions and most importantly, time?






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