Misery's Comfort

This summer has given me an eagle eye in regards to my life.
My moods... what affects me... what makes me happy... what frustrates me.

I came to the conclusion that it's taken me forever to just embrace being content and happy.  
I hear people tell me all the time that they don't know what the meaning of happiness is.  
Or they don't know what feeling happy is like.



From my own experience, I can tell you what the problem is.
It's that "we" (the so called unhappy) don't know what that feeling is because we're way too comfortable feeling that way.
We're so used to feeling miserable that being happy puts us into panic mode.  
It's like, "Oh shit! What's this? Where did this come from? There MUST be a catch."

And that just leads us into a negative self fulfilling prophecy of sorts and then we tend to go out of our way to find comfort in misery again.



 It took me 31 long years to finally understand that those things, people and situations that make me unhappy or upset, need to be let go of permanently.  What I have learned is that I'm absolutely crystal clear about those things that make me unhappy, discontent or just plain out miserable. 
And whether those things are people or situations, then the best thing to do is just to eliminate them.

While it's easier said than done, I believe that my transformation of the last couple of months has really been helpful in paving the way towards a life of peace and happiness and that I no longer feel comfortable in the blanket of misery that always lurks.



If a person makes me unhappy, I not only cut ties with them, but I burn bridges with them as well (i.e. moocher frog).
Particularly when I see that it's a pattern and that it seems that their presence always leads to anger, sadness, frustration, irritation of any sort.
When they come back seeking attention, I ignore them (i.e. the delusional judge).
Again, easier said then done.
But once you can pinpoint those things that take away from your bubble of joy... it becomes much easier to ward away the negative and accept all things positive.



There is no real comfort in misery, just an ugly cycle.
Embrace happiness and live a life of fulfillment.




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