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People in life are so scared of rejection that no matter how nice they are at the core of their being, the ability to turn into an inconsiderate jerk is something that can happen in the blink of an eye.  We are all out there searching for the ultimate one for ourselves and we get so caught up in the amount of "like" individuals seeking the same thing, that we neglect to see what is right in front of us.  

When a situation occurs in which we believe a "better opportunity" has presented itself, (I.e this dude has no kids, he must be a better choice) we tend to completely disregard everyone else's feelings in pursuit of our own satisfaction (I.e. the girl who gave it up for me last week must be interested, rather than the one who had a little more respect for herself).  And we forget that this is what causes us pain in the long run. Because after all, karma is a bitch. 

Our search for the impossible becomes an obsession... A sort of addiction.  Having something in front of us that just may be ideal for us but always searching for more, more, more... Something better... Because in our minds we know we deserve it.  And it's not that we don't, but there's only so much perfection we can attain, especially when it comes to finding an ideal match.  And once we get caught up in this journey, we not only forget to check in with others and how we may have left them but also ourselves.  So in that instance that we chose one potential mate over another and it doesn't work out, we have no one to blame but ourselves because we were the ones who chose that option. 

In that moment of satisfaction, we forget to ask ourselves... "Did I make the right choice?"  Because we're way too caught up in how good we made ourselves feel in the moment and there is no doubt in our mind that the grass is greener on the other side. 

But what happens to the other choices we've left behind without a word? Sure, they had options of their own they were probably exploring but what if you were their number one option at the time?  What if you left things off with them on good terms and you couldn't even be bothered to be the adult you claim to be and check in with them to let them know you are moving on to something else?  And instead, you've chosen the route of the coward. Because not only are you scared of how they may take your rejection of them but you're also secretly afraid of their rejection of you! Which in some cases would simply be a shrug of the shoulders, and a "good luck to you!" And isn't that worse than a few tears shed on your behalf? 

Not only will you never find out, but when you finally realize the choice you've made was the wrong one... It'll be too late to turn back... Because, isn't it always? And now you're left even older starting all over again because you expected to be happy and settled with that one who satisfied you in the moment.  That same one who has let you down numerous times before but you decided you'd give them yet another chance to screw things up.  And you made the decision to completely disregard everyone's feelings but your own.  And now? You're alone. 

The fear of possibly building something substantial, with something new, something fresh and something stable made you revert to the old ways and beliefs that maybe "this time" will be different with that other person. 

And when you seek out the option who had been better for you this entire time? Well, they've discovered that option number two should've been option number one all along. And they were fortunate enough to live happily ever after because someone else could acknowledge their worth while you were caught up in fantasy land. 

Looking back now, isn't this always the case? 





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