The Problem with Honesty

We all claim we want honesty... bluntness... straight up realness.

But when we get it, we run from it like it's some sort of plague.
We shrivel up within ourselves.. push people away... and hide in our pillow and blanket caves and call it a wrap!

Whether it's from friends or lovers.
True, blatant, straight to the point, poignant honesty is a weapon of mass destruction.
Okay, perhaps I'm tapping into my dominant over dramatic side.
But it's true.

I remember a couple of years ago, I told someone I once considered a good friend that she was making a mistake in her situation and that I didn't want to be part of it.  I told her that I wasn't comfortable attending her event with certain other people who were going to be present and that I couldn't understand how she was inviting people she barely knew and, yet, thinking of shunning those who she was actually close to.

Instead of really paying attention to what I was saying, she claimed she didn't understand what I was saying, even though I was being 100% clear.  She then said in regards to my character, "For someone who claims to be so blunt, you're really not saying anything at all."


I don't know if what she expected me to do was lower my own standards by saying, "You're an idiot if you think the people you've invited are actually your friends. And an even bigger idiot to think I am going to participate in your charade."

I would never use those words. I know how to be diplomatic about how I feel.  And still remain clear.  If it's not appreciated, not my problem.  One thing I don't know how to do, is be fake.  I can try really hard, but I've realized it's just much easier to ignore a person or situation rather than pretend to like it or them.  I can also still manage to remain polite and well mannered when placed in a situation where I have to deal with those difficult people.
Fake is just not a mask I wear well.

Where I'm headed to with this is that, honesty is not quite over rated but it is in fact in way too high of a demand for those who can't appreciate or value it.... or simply just swallow it.
If you really don't want to know, then don't ask.
And proceed to simmer in your stew of curiosity.

If you want to know, then be prepared to take an emotional beating.
Because honesty can easily sting.


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