Unsolicited Advice: Relationship Woes

As a single woman in my 30's, I have learned that when it comes to friends and their relationships, the best thing that one can do is to keep their opinions to themselves.

All solicited relationship advice is actually UNSOLICITED.  They don't really WANT to know what you think.  Trust me.

No matter how much your friends cry, beg or plead, the best thing you can do at all times, is just keep your mouth shut.  If your friend is bitching about his/her mate and you're not particularly fond of that person, then a couple of cheers here and there, are okay as long as you don't go overboard.  But nothing more.  Because once they make up with that person and they look back at the boisterous comments you made regarding the womanizing dirt bag the dude was, they will start to look at you as a hater and totally forget about the lascivious comments that same dirt bag was making on a social network towards some unknown female.

Stay out of it.
That's the best advice you can give yourself.
What you can do, is listen.  Be supportive and ask them what they would like to ultimately do to solve their problems.  Help them explore their options but never, ever, ever tell them what YOU think they should do.  Not if you care about keeping that friend in the slightest.
Honestly speaking... no one wants to be made to look the fool... even if they already are.  Denial is a better outfit for them to wear.

If that dirt bag has hit on you, and again, you're trying to save that friendship, then distance yourself.  It's likely you see that friend rarely anyway.  When you do, make sure it's on a girl's night out.  No interaction with their mate necessary.  Keep it distant.

Some of you are reading this and are on the other side of this saying, "Oh hell no.  If my mate was dirty I would want to know!"  Sure, you would.  But you don't want to hear it from a single woman.  You will always suspect they are jealous, or don't know better because, clearly they are single and that must be their fault.

Keep your nose out of it and your lips sealed.


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