The Ex Misconception
There is a HUGE discrepancy in the way our potential and future mates envision what our ex's were like. They assume that because a relationship ended badly, that the ENTIRE relationship or situation-ship was bad. And so these newbies come into the picture saying things like, "Oh I'm super considerate, generous, etc. You will find that I am nothing like anyone you've ever dated." Negative! Just because things ended badly, doesn't mean things were always bad. Whatever and whoever my ex-whatever's were at their core, they didn't show me that side to them immediately. It was when they began to show me how ugly they were (not all of them were ugly or bad people by the way), is when things began to deteriorate or ended immediately. Just because the last situationship was involved with someone for an ex-amount of years, doesn't mean he was a total dick to me throughout our whatever you want to call it. I reclal a time he brought me soup when