Never Settle

Dating is such a catch.
We can find someone who is good at the core of their being and you can be good at the core of yours, but then it may turn out that you're not attracted to them or them to you.  Or that there's something lacking.

I've been telling people on a regular basis.
Just because the person is a good person, doesn't mean you're meant to be with them.
That doesn't mean, that we intentionally seek people that are bad.
It simply means that we are not always compatible with other "good" people and that no matter how flexible we try to be, at the end of the day it doesn't work because there's something important to us that's lacking.

Some semi-decent men out there claim that "nice guys finish last."  Well, it may be true that nice guys finish last but it has nothing to do with us wanting "bad" guys.  There's a huge difference between being a good person and being a nice one.  I've dated many "nice" guys and they were soulless creatures at the core.

I've only dated one "good" guy but the problem was that we were just not compatible.  We didn't want the same things and even with compromise it would've never worked because there were some things he was stuck in and so was I.

We all need to be emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and sexually compatible with people to a certain degree.  That's it.  It may seem like a lot but in truth, when broken down to the specifics, trust me, it can be very simple.

There's nothing wrong with not wanting to settle just because the person is a good person.  That doesn't mean that we should give up entirely.  And that doesn't mean that we'll never find anyone.  We just need to find balance within ourselves.  What are the things we are willing to sacrifice?  And let's face it, if there is no attraction there, you simply can't force it.

Yes, of course, there are people our there that are typically emotional masochists.  But just as my last post described, you don't always know what you're getting into until you're already in it.  People choose to show you and tell you what they feel like showing or telling.  And at the end of the day, we choose to continue seeing those people despite their own personal realities and go from there.

My point is this.  You should never simply settle because you feel your imaginary clock ticking, because society says so or because it seems like a good idea.  You only settle for that one person you are compatible with and WILLING to make sacrifices for in hopes that they feel the same.


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