Showing posts from March, 2017

Beware of Projectors

As it goes, in my short life, I've noticed that the most popular defense mechanism people use is projection.  Projection is the misattribution of an individual's ugly thoughts, feelings or impulses upon another individual who is not experiencing these same thoughts, feelings or impulses (McLeon, 2009).  It is used when the thoughts may seem unacceptable for the person to express.  That individual may simply feel uncomfortable having these thoughts or feelings.  What happens is the individual lacks insight into their own motivations and feelings (McLeod, 2009).  

Have you ever been in an argument with an unreasonable and incredibly stupid person who keeps calling you the very things you know they are but won't admit to being?  That is projection.   I recall a time some years ago, in which an individual couldn't trust me because I'd found out their ugly little secret (not only ugly but continues to this day).  I recall laughing in their face because everything they&#…

Mind - FULL

I think the hardest skill to perfect is how to be "mindful."
We spend so much time living in our thoughts of past and future that we forget to be present.
Between work, school and life events, living in the moment is incredibly difficult to do.

Moments of happiness pass us by because we're too worried about what's going on around us or what might follow, that we don't just sit down and enjoy it.

While our goals and our dreams are certainly important to pursue for the welfare of our futures, enjoying the very second that we are living in, is just as important.

How many of you have ever looked back at a gathering you've hosted and have heard stories of how much fun your family and friends have had while you were running around serving everyone? cleaning up after everyone? etc?

Do you remember sitting down and enjoying any part of that gathering with anyone?  Just taking a moment and looking around or sitting down and sharing a drink with your guests?

We spen…