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Stolen Identity

Have you ever been in a relationship that made you questions your values? Your morals? Your likes? Dislikes?
Have you ever seen yourself totally transform everything about yourself from the beginning of a relationship through the end? or simply within a year?

Maybe you had one view on politics and suddenly found yourself supporting the opposite party by the influence of the nonsense your significant other has spewed?

Or perhaps, it was a different type of change.
Maybe you were straight up into the hip hop scene and suddenly became a grunge hipster?

I've seen this happen so often.
People go into a relationship one way and then all of a sudden their thoughts or beliefs have changed based on the person they're having sex with.
It's really that simple.
An orgasm can really make you see things differently.

Think about it.

Maybe there's a change in shows you watch.
Or you've probably stopped watching tv altogether because your partner thinks television is damaging.
It p…

Give Them Something To Talk About

I used to care about other people's thoughts and opinions about me and I think once I hit 26, 27, that all stopped.

I'd been paying rent, utilities and other bills and realized that these people weren't helping me, so therefore, nothing they did or said mattered to me.
It's very easy to write people off because at the end of the day, if those people aren't making any valid efforts to come through as the friends and the family they portray themselves to be, then why keep them around?

See... I was once that girl that always came through for people's events, no matter the cost, the anxiety, the difficulty of making it.
I was always the one who called and sent a gift and just followed through.
But when I realized that as you get older, priorities change for everyone, and you're no longer of any importance to certain individuals nor are they to you, I just stopped.

Their presence wasn't making a difference in my life, so why would their absence?

I don'…

The Interchangeables

To be self aware is to be conscious of your own characteristics and feelings.

I'm confident that I'm self aware.
I'm 100% in tune with my short comings and I own every single one.
Every year, I look at myself and my life and try to mentally evaluate where I should be and what I can do to improve myself in order to get there.
I find myself to be a constant work in progress and believe that there will never come a day where I won't be.

That's why I most certainly find it incredibly frustrating when those who preach self awareness the most, are no where near actually being self aware.

Have you ever watched someone sabotage their friendships and looked on as you thought to yourself... "This is why you're down to nothing...." or "This is why so-and-so stopped talking to you...."

I see this entirely way too much.

See.... I have what I consider a circle of about 5 friends. 
One of those friends I've known since I was 13 and we've had ups and…